I hear men complain a lot about how every woman who is even remotely human-looking is chased by dozens, if not hundreds, of guys a day, particularly on a dating site. These are scary numbers. While this is somewhat true, there’s a lot you can learn from it. Women get chased so much that there is no need for a Full 10 woman to chase a man. Ever.
That said, while a girl on a dating site can get about a hundred NEW messages a day, which is true for me at least, that doesn’t mean that these messages are of ANY quality. Most of it is literal dating junk mail. Low-level guys are mass bombarding EACH AND EVERY WOMAN on the website, hoping to get even one reply. Many of these messages contain nothing more than “hi” or a copy-pasted generic text, sometimes directly from their profile. In a word, crap.
Just because all women are often approached doesn’t mean the offers are realistic.
The same is very much true when you go out clubbing; some single men literally hit on every woman there – if they’re drunk enough to forget where they’ve already been, they can come around twice, three times… Unless she is completely brain-dead herself, she’ll ignore these guys as a viable option for even a one-night stand.
What is also very, very… VERY obvious is the glaring lack of actual fuck buddy/dating/marriage material. While men approach women in swarms, it doesn’t mean they’re viable options. And there’s nothing more optimistic than a man with a dream… To a lot of men, any woman is the same. A Full 10 woman or a bare 6… Just the same. And a Full 10 woman wishes to be seen as such and appreciated for it.
Don’t get me wrong. There are high-level guys around, sure. It’s just that there might not be any just now. And if there aren’t any around now, you amuse yourself with an 8 or a 9. (My Full 10 is the celebrity-philosopher -type, but another woman’s Full 10 is something different.)
Lower-level guys KNOW they have to put in the leg work for a full 10 woman.
I know for a fact that there have been a Full 10 men who secretly wished to marry me, and I had NO IDEA. NONE. Not a freaking clue. Men I would have married on the spot had they even hinted in that direction. But a man of that category does not NEED TO chase women any more than a Full 10 woman needs to chase men. They don’t even know the meaning of the verb.
When high-level guys give you attention, they usually let you stew on it. They give you the green light and expect you to come collect if you’re into them. The Full 10 women do the same. Men absolutely, 100% certainly overestimate women’s level of self-confidence and UNDERESTIMATE their importance to women. I’m pretty sure we do the same.
When a lower-than-10 guy (or girl) gives you attention, they don’t let you sit on it. They bombard you with attention, and they make damned certain you know they mean serious business. Their self-confidence comes from believing commitment is the ONLY THING people want in a relationship. Serious commitment. From someone who knows how to shower and keep his fists to himself.
My not-so-lovely love story.
The man who I married went so far as to send me his income statements to show he was financially stable, even though I didn’t ask. The reason why he got over the line, so to speak, was that he was relentless and clear-worded, not that he was financially stable. I was somewhat on a rebound at the time, kinda surrendered to the idea that the man I was actually in love with didn’t feel the same for me, so it felt to me that it didn’t matter who I’d marry – I would feel just about the same for any other man in the world.
His 12-years-older-than-I-self-confidence was also such a refreshing change. He knew he wanted to marry me and wasn’t shy about demonstrating it. His biggest mistake was that he gleefully ignored me when I informed him I was still in love with another man. I figured whatever. It was far from true love, but hey… They keep the pressure up, and eventually, someone in the right state of depression will bite. And I bet Not Full 10 women do the exact same thing.
Ironically, every mistake he made was part of a strategy he even shared with me: Strike when the iron is hot, seal the deal as soon as possible… Basically, “don’t let her think on it too long.” And the golden: “I always go for the women who don’t give a fuck.” So yeah. If you’re reading this, you know what you are doing and did it anyway, so shut it. 
(I still consider him the best friend I’ve ever had in this world, but he’s still a dick.)
Speak when spoken to, pretty boy.
I don’t suggest you go as far as these guys do. Still, you have to understand what you’re playing against. These men are not ashamed to say they like a girl… They also assume that if a girl puts any effort into looking nice and being nice and wise, she’ll appreciate being told that her efforts have been noted. And he’d be correct.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with letting someone else know you like them, even if the like was one-sided. You just need to make them feel good about themselves; that’s a nice thing to do. And you know what the best skirt-chasers do? That. Only that. They make a girl feel good about herself, and he makes sure he looks delicious doing that. A compliment from Bratt Pitt lands differently than a compliment from Jack Black. (Although… )
A high-level guy is high-level because looks and certain status are important to him. The same is true for her. High-level people value a certain level of effort. The downside to this is that they are also self-critical and believe others are equally critical of them. This doesn’t mean a narcissistic ego; a high-level person doesn’t build a house on sand; he builds it on solid rock.
When a woman you like speaks (texts, messages you), message back. She doesn’t understand why a guy who likes her would ignore her messages, so she’ll conclude you’re not interested. If she gets irritated, she’s a narcissist, and that is not something you want to date. You cannot act too eager on a non-narcissistic woman who likes you. If you can, she wasn’t the one.
If you like someone who keeps sporadically texting you, do one thing to change where your relationship ends: Message her back. Make her feel she can talk to you; you’re not annoyed she does. Then, message her, too, as often as you like, about anything you like.
A Full 10 woman won’t wrangle a commitment out of you.
DO NOT EXPECT a Full 10 woman to be hands-on with you. She knows FULL WELL how easy it is to pressure someone luke warmly interested into a relationship with them. They are not going to chase you down the aisle, knowing that if you’re not as into her as she’s into you, you’re going to wind up cheating on her because you didn’t really want to marry her in the first place. Therefore, be present. Be available. Don’t play her like she was a narcissistic… C-word.
Do not leave a woman you’re interested in hanging. It is the kind of disinterest she doesn’t experience much, but knowing how lukewarm she feels about 99% of men she’s approached by, she suspects that’s how you feel about her, too, if you play aloof or hard-to-get as a Full 10 guy. She’ll lose interest with lack of interest because she’s not stupid. Also, she can move on to the next guy who will tell her she’s perfect.
Pretty women are used to easy men. They prefer not to humiliate themselves for a guy, either. You probably don’t like to humiliate yourself over a girl, either. Therefore, be fair and meet her halfway.
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