There are two kinds of women in this context. Those who think men are superior and thus have no real reason to want women around for anything but sex and those who believe women are superior and men should run after them like possessed to even have the privilege of their company for an hour… And that paying for it wouldn’t hurt them. Both are wrong of course, and logically, they may actually believe it, but it doesn’t mean the monster doesn’t rear its ugly head at times.
This one’s about the women who believe men are superior and have no real reason to stick around a boring female when sex is off the table.
“Do you actually want me?”
Most women believe without any difficulty at all, understandably, that you’ll be there for the sex no drama. They may well know that without a doubt, they’re pretty enough for sex, they’re funny enough for a fun night out, and they’re smart enough for a dinner date or two. A relationship is an entirely different matter, however.
So, women test you. If they are not chasing you, do you even remember they exist? Do they always have to be the one to contact you before you remember they’re they’re? Does it instantly go into sexting?
They may fear they’re too naive to believe you’re actually being faithful. They’re a modern woman and even though they may accept the conditions of a temporary sexual relationship, they’d like to be glued in on what it is. Is this an exclusive thing like you say or are they just being a gullible fool? Sometimes, the more they trust you by the gut, the more they mistrust themselves as it would make sense that a handsome guy like yourself has a ton of women and no need or wish to settle for one… But might be inclined to lie about it, because, as established, she knows she’s pretty enough for sex… And that men like it easy at times.
“Are you busy?”
Women also tend to believe that men are always busy. They pretty much always have better, more important things on their plate than women at any given time. She believes if he’s not here asking for sex, he’s probably out there hanging out with the guys or doing something hobby, work, or business-related. She doesn’t want to be the woman who is always begging for attention 100% of every possible moment… even if she’d love to have your company 100% of every available moment.
“What are you up to?” Is the question trying to casually figure out whether you might be waiting for her to contact you or if you’re busy with something more important than women? In the early relationship, she’s going to assume you associate her as “a woman” even if she knew she has the potential to be a special woman, she doesn’t assume you’re a psychic… Like her. 
(Women believe they have a higher capacity to understand a good match when they encounter one, but they still feel the need to play it as if they were “a woman” to you.)
At any rate, she’s trying to figure out your schedule and habits, and what annoys you about women and to not to be that woman.
“What will happen if I say no to sex completely?”
You may well know that when a woman that you have a strong sexual chemistry with says no to sex it’s actually a good sign… If you want a relationship with her that is. This is her forcing you to see her as a person rather than hide behind what is the easy sexual connection but which is also relatively generic. It is rather easy for a woman to find sexual chemistry with a man, but to assume it will translate into an actual relationship would be a bit of a leap.
If she figures you’re too sex-focused with her, she might turn the tap off completely and see if you can cope. That doesn’t mean the sex has “dried out” it means you’re being forced toward something deeper and more meaningful with a question if you are man enough to handle it or are you going to scamper away like a little cowardly boy.
This can also mean that she’s testing you for other relationships you haven’t disclosed to her. If you can’t take her out in public… Why might that be?
Don’t mistake her insecurity about your feelings with her insecurity with her own.
It’s an easy mistake to make to confuse her insecurity with how you’re feeling with her insecurity about how she feels about you or what she wants. A self-respecting woman is not going to be chasing a luke-warm man into a committed relationship he doesn’t really want when she knows there are tons of men who would love to be in a relationship with her – even if finding them might have proven difficult. She knows she deserves a man who loves to be with her, someone who she loves to be with, too. Not being too self-conceited, she doesn’t believe all men would die to be her man let alone the man of any woman at all, so she’ll try to figure out how you feel before trying to lady-handle you into a relationship.
You also need to know that average men are not shy about chasing sexy women into relationships any more than average women are shy about chasing sexy men into relationships. That gives her the impression that men should be very eagerly pursuing her if he wants her, and if you’re playing it coy or expect HER to act like an average woman would do with you, you’ll easily give her the impression you’re not really that interested… And she wants a man who is.
You cannot over-chase a beautiful woman.
And the part that YOU can certainly do in this situation: It is impossible for you to over-chase a beautiful sexy woman. She’s used to it. Every man from here to Timbuktu is at it… And even though it doesn’t work for average men because she’s used to it, it is an ENTIRELY DIFFERENT THING coming from a Full 10 guy.
You cannot put off a non-narcissistic woman by being too easy. Only a narcissistic woman (rejection junkie) will be tempted by the perceived scarcity trick (aka. playing hard to get). That is only dangerous with women no sane man would want to be in a relationship with anyway. The stuff nightmares are made of, trust me.
You can, however, put off a woman who has gotten used to being chased by being too aloof and distant. She’ll just figure she got overly excited or hopeful again and moves on.
Just so you know.
