If you need to understand women, you’ll have to realize that you’ll have to be more specific than that. What type of woman are you actually interested in? I guarantee you; you’ll understand the rationale and reasoning of a Full 10 woman better if you think of her as a Full 10 Man rather than if you try to understand her “as a generic woman.” Generic women and her have very little in common.
Why didn’t she return your phone call (yet?) Why isn’t she hanging onto every word you say? What about her aloofness? Why is she not making a move? Why are you not? Her reasons are probably exactly the same or very similar as yours. If you try to ask the same questions about an 8-woman, the answers will not match… Unless you’re an 8, yourself, and you’re reading this blog thinking you’ll become a 10 with a bit of training.
Your position on “the ladder” has more influence on your thinking, relationship priorities, and motivations than your gender does. Full 10’s know they can choose, but they also know that a Full 10 Man can choose. They respect that. They know that one person’s Full 10 is another person’s 9, people have preferences. Full 10s know how annoying it is to be chased by someone you don’t want, so they’re waiting for that green light… again and again and again as you go along.
Don’t ask for dating advice from someone you wouldn’t be excited to date.
Don’t ask for dating nor relationship advice from 7’s and 8’s. Be cautious with 9’s. If you would be disappointed to date her/him, don’t ask them advice on how to approach even their best friend who is a Full 10, let alone someone they don’t even know. There’s no point. 7’s and 8’s are typically rather practical about their relationships. Even if an 8 and a 10 are seemingly friends, it doesn’t mean they understand each other very well… And the 8 will understand the 10 less than the other way around. (The 8 will assume a lot and subconsciously flatter themselves a lot in their view on the Full 10.)
You’d do better asking for a Full 10 Man’s personal perspective to relationships to understand a woman of that status, than asking anyone from a lower rung.
7’s and 8’s are looking for a life partner, similar to looking for a business partner or a job. Full 10’s shudder a little about the whole word “partner.” 7’s and 8’s don’t necessarily see relationships as fun and entertaining, nor romantic, let alone sexual, but rather as a practical survival method. (This is not a gender thing.) They see relationships as a competitive edge in accumulating wealth or a sense of security. (9’s and 10’s would widen their eyes, asking, “What’s so important about ‘accumulating wealth’ or difficult about it?”)
7’s and 8’s have an entirely different relationship priority. They will also advise you to drop yours. Don’t, however. They have no idea why you value what you value and will not consider your values to be meaningful. Your value system makes their dating life harder because you have what they want and some extra to throw in. (Except, they’ll want you to quit the gym and all that because they turn their nose up at vanity. Pearls to the swine, in other words.)
Neither Full 10 Man nor Woman NEEDS a romantic partner. They want one as a luxury item.
9’s and 10’s value romance and fun. They see relationships as an enhancement to their life, not a necessity but a bonus. Unfortunately, Full 10 Men may see relationships as a responsibility of caring for A woman rather than a joy they can afford themselves.
You’ll drop that way of thinking right now and realize you have a right to a pleasure-based relationship. You have the right to expect your only(?) sexual relationship to include sex with a person you genuinely find sexually attractive. As a favor to me and other Full 10 women, you will stop listening to 7’s and 8’s bitching about it. You belong to us. We belong to you. Now, let’s sort this out. You’ll make a commitment to Full 10 women right now.
9’s and 10’s are very capable people. They don’t feel lost in life. They are not afraid of things. In fact, they have time for frivolous things like minding about their looks and philosophy because they’re not constantly afraid of survival. They’ll get by, yes, even if they’re not making any money; they can stretch the dollar if they need to because they’re smart. They’re not panicked. They worry about personal freedom, happiness, and authenticity when the 7’s and 8’s don’t have time for that. And you don’t have time for worries. A Full 10 may not be making money – but it’s their choice rather than an unavoidable fate they’re enduring.
