Here’s a dating tip for you: If a woman wants to be wined and dined like a queen on a first date, she’s high maintenance and quite possibly not heterosexual, either. She’s either a gold-digging narcissist, or she’s a closet lesbian looking for an added incentive to have sex with a guy. If she doesn’t want to meet you for coffees, she’s not interested in you, but she’s interested in what you can provide for her.
The reason I barely ever agreed to go on a dinner for the first date is that men who put up a lot of money on you also expect you to put out after that. That’s just not cool. Too much pressure. Very uncomfortable for a nice girl. (I’m not saying she might not be THAT kind of a girl, but if she wants you, she should do it for free… Considering wanting YOU is different from wanting your financial support and trusting you to be capable of providing it.)
A coffee is cheaper and quicker; you can find a nice small cafe with every perk that a dinner has (you can have a nice quiet conversation) plus some;
- No pressure.
- Can be quick without being awkward if you don’t hit it off.
- It can be prolonged if you do hit it off.
- You can go somewhere else if it goes well but it will be comfortable to cut it short if it doesn’t.
- There’s cake. (If you find yourselves lingering.)
- If she’s a gold digger, you’l find out before spending a dime.
Alternatives, if you want to be more original, include some cute ice cream parlor, a dessert restaurant, maybe a surprisingly good fast food joint you know EVERYONE loves, and, of course, you could ask her for a pint, too, if you prefer.
