One of the things that Full 10’s have in common is that they have “a thing.” They are interested in something specific, or often multiple non-essential things. They have hobbies and interests that, in turn, have a function other than survival or simple socializing. When they go to a book club, they actually want to meet people to talk about literature, not sit around gossiping with an unopened book in their hands.
The 7’s and 8’s will insist that your interests are not important. What they mean to say is that your hobbies and interests are not important TO THEM. They will insist that intelligence isn’t important in a relationship, but that normal people can love, too. Ironically, they often view relationships as a survival strategy, in which intelligence is of a great asset, but hey, let’s not critique the intelligence of a dumb person.
They will also insist that it is not nice to call someone dumb, and I agree. It isn’t. But not calling someone dumb won’t make them smarter, quite the opposite… It removes the incentive to try harder.
The 7’s and 8’s will tell you that sex doesn’t matter, or that looks don’t matter when it comes to sexual attraction. Again, they can speak for themselves. No, I suppose heterosexual sex doesn’t appeal to a closet gay person, and they can be all high and mighty about it, and looks don’t matter to someone who doesn’t wish to maintain them, and that’s their business. You don’t have to agree.
Manipulativeness does have a place in a relationship, but you don’t have to be dumb enough to fall for that, either. (You can stop now.)
You define what matters to you in a relationship, yes?
Loyalty is a nice thing, especially for people who are about to screw you the fuck over, right? Who would love a loyal person more than a person who cannot inspire loyalty themselves? Don’t hold loyalty as your personal character trait, that’ll get you screwed over. Recognize loyalty to a deserving person and fucking live your life in the service of them, but don’t EVER swear loyalty to an undeserving piece of shit that demands it from you for their personal benefit.
Honesty is a much better principle. It can hurt at times, but it’s a good thing to have.
Forgiveness is another fine-sounding trait, but again, like loyalty, it can be used against you. She does shit after shit after shit, and complains if you are not “forgiving.” Nuhhuh. Decide to forgive for your own benefit only. Forgive women who are worth their shit. If being screwed over by her is more than than being treated nicely by another, by all means, forgive her. Or find a woman you don’t need to forgive.
Then… what about sex?
You do not need to choose between sex and love. You absolutely, 100% can have both. In fact, you can’t have one without the other. True love is highly sexual. It is brain melting hot sex-oozing mind fuck. Never again be sold the story that true love and sex do not go hand-in-hand. They do. They’re joined by the hip, in fact.
If she doesn’t make your balls throb, she’s not the one for you. If she’s not more than willing to release your tensions, she’s not the one for you… Unless it’s a game that you both enjoy, of course. I’m not judging.
So, what makes your heart race and things go hard, sex-wise, usually? Vanilla? Ball torture and I don’t know, peehole probing? 
Whatever it is, she’s into it. Your right woman is into it.
Poly-leanings.
We’ve all heard everything there is to know about our sexual orientations and what not. But there’s still one thing that will actually make us CIS-gendered heterosexuals seem a little less boring. Our polygamous leanings. The variety that makes you grin at the thought of it is your authentic leaning. It simply has to sound delicious, nothing more complicated than that.
I’ll only throw in the basic 3 here:
Polygyny
Polygyny means a marriage-like relationship between one man and several women. The usual interpretation to ‘polygamy’, which is actually a rather general term. Polygynous women love sharing a husband, sharing household duties, and raising their children with other women. Most women are polygynous.
Polyandry
Polyandry is a marriage-like relationship between one woman and several men. Most men are actually polyandrous, and polyandrous women are a bit of an anomaly, they exist of course, by the correct number, but they are rarer than polygynous women, just so we can get the groups set up properly. We need more men per woman to get a nice sizzling hot soup out of this. Polyandrous women love being lusted over, they love sexual attention from men, and submission, dominance, BDSM, and further polyamorous varieties exist… Like with polygynous people to be fair. Whatever suits you all.
Polygynandry
Polygynandry is a term for a “group marriage”, formed between several men and several women. Probably works for us all as a default setting for the best – I’d be happy if I had my teens in a polygynandrous soup looking for themselves rather than some ridiculous form of monogamy at 17, just saying. (I’m childfree however, so it’s easy for me to say.) Polygynandrous people are the least possessive, most adaptable, and most lesser faire of all others. They adapt to monogamy rather easily, too, unlike the polyandrous and polygynous people.
Be impossible!
You can ask for anything. Don’t settle anymore. Don’t lower your bar just so some twat can crawl over it. You’re too old to get it wrong again. This time, you’ll wait for the right one, rejecting all others. You’ll stop for one-night-stands only or something.
Give yourself the permission to DO LESS and ASK MORE. Let’s get rebellious, shall we?
