Men like me. They love me, respect me, and want me. Although the depth of it is more complicated than that, I agreed to share some of the pointers that attract naturally polyandrist men (this is most men) to a naturally polyandrist woman (rarity). This is not applicable to naturally polygynist men (rare individuals), and how important this is for a natural polygynandrist (fairly common type of man) is another matter. This is beginner-level. I’m not going to assume you’ve got psychic powers, but they’d help.
Put men’s opinions about female ideal ahead of other womens’
If you want to attract men, you have to put their opinions about what is attractive first. Women are attracted to different things in other women than polyandrist men are. Polyandrist men like women who are a little masculine. They like women who look like sex on a stick but think like men.
It is more reliable to ask a lesbian woman if you look hot than to ask a bisexual woman if she likes your look or act. Straight men and lesbians share more or less the same taste in women. They like them low-key, real, down-to-earth, and smart. (YES. Men love smart women but have a hard time tolerating stupid women who pride themselves on being smart. Nobody likes those. Men also don’t like abusive women who rebrand their abusiveness as “being strong and independent.”)
Look and be “accidentally gorgeous.”
Try to achieve a look that doesn’t look like you tried too hard to get there. If you look like you needed 5 hours to look that way, men are going to associate you as “an ugly.” No, rather, it would be good to look like you just rolled out of bed, looking incredible. Prove it if you can. Men love you for being able to “joosh” your hair with your fingers in the morning and be done with your daily beauty routine.
Use eyeliner and eyeshadow; otherwise, keep it light to non-existent.
When appropriate (typically not daily) you may want to use a bit of makeup.
Men typically love the smokey eye. However, lip gloss is gross if you ask a guy, and lipstick is worse. They don’t mind a bit of makeup foundation, but it cannot be so thick you cannot be seen from underneath it. However, a polygynist man will potentially disagree. Men will also let this slide, because they’ve accepted women loooove makeup, but if you ask a guy, they’ll definitely tell you less is better.
Men also hate the smell of makeup, so the less you have on the less you stink. I’d also go easy on perfumes and always ask a guy you like to pick the scent with you.
Fit to fit, fat to fat.
Do not expect a gym buff to appreciate your body positivity. If he does, he’s a simp. If a simp is what you want, go for it, but for the rest of you, you get what you put in.
Woke feminism, in particular, is a male turn off. (Simps excluded.)
If you’re a feminist, 1st and 2nd wave, 2nd wave in particular, is a bonus, but leave woke feminism to lesbians and trans people and other mentally deranged individuals.
Genuine interest on anything “masculine” is a bonus.
If you have any interests that are stereotypically masculine, flaunt them. Men love women who break gender barriers. However, don’t do it to “prove yourself” or to push some feminist agenda. Rather, be GENUINELY interested in that stuff. Otherwise, leave it to women who are.
Leave your house a little untidy.
Your house should not be immaculate or sterile in it’s general appearance if you want to make a man feel like he’s welcome in there. (My kitchen is a squalor, don’t take pointers of it, but if you have to decide between a germ phobic kitchen and mine, mine is better.) If your house is too “adult” his mind is not going to be thinking “sexy hot young chick” but rather “my teacher/mom” and that’s not necessarily the sexiest thought.
What I mean is that while your house should look generally cleanish, it shouldn’t be obsessively OCD-level clean, that’s very, very unsexy. A hospital grade clean space is not a space where you want to cum. Men don’t feel comfortable in such environment, and I don’t know how women could, either.
You also don’t want to appear nervous about his visits by cleaning up like for a queen’s visit. It shows that you’re too self-conscious and insecure. Although cleaning up for another woman’s visit this is a good preparation, do not prepare for a man’s visit with a marathon cleanup. Tidy up, but leave the house looking relaxed and lived in.
Most importantly: Men are not stupid nor are they unaware.
Do not treat a man like an enemy or a child. Treat a man like you’d treat your best girlfriend. You can talk to him about whatever you want to talk about, especially emotional, relationship, and philosophy -related topics. While makeup and the like aren’t completely banned, watch out for signs of losing interest. Avoid gossiping, although there are men who love a good gossip depending on who we’re talking about and in what tone.
Men love to bust a hypocrite as much as any woman does, but don’t assume he’s interested in bitching about another woman’s choice of a bad brand of clothing. He might gladly join in bashing another woman’s sense of style, however. If you don’t know the difference between “style” and “must-have-brands” avoid discussing fashion with men. They are much more aware of good fashion than what brand-fashionistas give them credit for.
Never underestimate a man’s ability to shut the fuck up if getting laid depends on it. Just because he doesn’t argue with you doesn’t mean he agrees with you or that he respects your view. Never assume a man is stupid, unaware, or “bad at relationships.” Just because he chooses no relationship at all, doesn’t mean he’s bad at them, more likely, the man has standards that majority of women fail to meet.
“What a gentlemun sez and what a gentlemun thinks iz two different thing. And I ain’t seen Mr. Wilkes axin’ for to marry ya!” (Still, I think there is a good chance Mr. Wilkes really meant he likes a girl with a healthy appetite, men tend to. Still, men do keep their negative opinions about you to themselves until they’ve lost every last bit of respect they had for you.)
Don’t be an abusive narcissistic bitch.
If you are not a narcissistic abuser, you’re already ahead of the curve. Simply treating a man with a level of respect makes you a star in his eyes. You don’t have to do any of the above stuff if you don’t have to pretend to be nice to him, but you can actually be that authentically.
Many women treat men appallingly while simultaneously playing a victim-card. Acknowledge this, and be on his side when it’s fair to be, and you’ll do better than 99% of your competitors.
