Your job, as my coachee, is to find the self-confidence to do what you do alone. The reason for this is that it is TOO EASY to get dragged in by group mentality to do what they want to do, and for a weaker personality to be involuntarily dragged into something that isn’t right for them.
Nice people are everywhere. Incompetent, unaware, incomplete, flawed nice people are everywhere. People who want to help you to become happy the same way they are happy. There are no guarantees they can show you how to be happy their way. You may not be anything like them alone.
You need to separate yourself from others and learn to be you. You have to have at least the basic answers ready to go. Figured out.
It’s not forever.
You won’t need to be alone forever. The whole point of this thing is to make sure you don’t need to be alone for the rest of your life. Just long enough for you to sort your shit out. (And yes, I will continue swearing. I like it. I don’t give a fuck if you don’t.)
You can become this etheric calm being that I am once you learn to deal with your own bullshit.
Here’s the thing most women don’t fucking understand: You cannot become calm by avoiding reality. You become calm by dealing with reality and managing your reality ENOUGH to know you’re safe in it. You need to know you’re safe, you’ve got your checks and balances in order, and you’ve got a basic grasp in reality.
You hide from reality and you KNOW you hide from reality. It will nag at you at all times. The more you avoid it, the more it nags you.
Stop expecting me to teach you how to pull the wools over your eyes more effectively. No. At the very least, you’ll have to be able to trust that your social security check is going to bail you out every week and that you know how to live on that meager amount of money without stressing over it. Money is an issue. It’s a huge issue and there is no way out of it. REALITY is such.
Now. Onto happier stuff in the next post.
