You are not inherently unlovable. It is just that true love is… Scary. It is that for men as well as women. In many ways, we all want the opposite gender to be the self-confident one, but when they are, it’s usually not a great sign. Absolute self-confidence is very often based on absolute stupidity and self-delusion, not reality. People who are in touch with reality tend to be a little… Skiddish when it comes to real relationships.
We’re going to try and become better than our men in that regard, so we can take on whatever they are too scared to face. This means YOU need not to be scared of facing things.
Accepting and knowing yourself.
You will never find true love trying to mimic some other woman who you think is doing better in love and relationships than you are. You need to know who you are before your true love can be revealed to you. I am going to help you find yourself, not to mimic me. By mimicking me, you’ll just become a cheap fake whore, you realize? You will never be me, but that is not to say you cannot possibly be similar to me, such as a polyandrist or spiritual or every man’s fantasy sex toy, you can, but you still won’t be me, that’d be boring.
And here’s an absolute guarantee: While you cannot be me, when you realize you can be loved for who YOU ARE, you wouldn’t even want to be me. Being you will be so much cooler. It’s probably so cool for you that you don’t even dare to dream it’s possible, but you think trying to be some pale version of me would be a lot less scary and effective in getting what you want… But you cannot get what you want by not being yourself. You’ll get what I want if you’re really good at faking it… And you’ll be unsatisfied with it.
At any rate, if you don’t know yourself, your true love won’t recognize you even if he was right there. Even if they did, and if you were still avoiding yourself, you’d be screaming at him that you’re not that kind of a girl and fuck it up. You need to be the kind of girl you are and be brave enough to face it or else your Mr. Right will look Mr. Disgusting to you.
What you hate and feel ashamed about yourself is what you hate and loathe about your True Lover.
There is no way around it. The path to your true love goes through you. Knowing and accepting and loving who you are deep down. The stuff you try to hide or change. It takes courage to face yourself and all the things you believe men will reject you for if they knew.
