Teacher one moment, student the next

You think we all know everything we need to know about sex and romance?

We don’t. You don’t. You know MORE now than what you did yesterday, yes. But there’s a ton more to learn, and I’m here for it.

How many times have you gotten yourself in a situation that you just don’t understand? He says one kinda shit and does another? She seems interested but then vanishes into the thin air? You’ve been in a committed relationship for years and all of the sudden there’s another woman or a vanishing one. Why? They say they’re into it, and then act like they don’t really mean it only two, three days in. What do they even want?!

All of this stuff is the result of you dating across thinker types you don’t naturally understand. I don’t recommend dating across “faction lines” unless you’re very close to the other type. This is why I don’t do a personality test, but rather let you pick the end result for yourself. 😉 (If you want it that way, that’s the way you’ll have it.)

Correct me if I’m wrong!!!

I am a Cat Thinking Polyandrist female. I am pretty sure I’ve got the Cat Rules down pat pretty well. HOWEVER, I am absolutely still trying to dot the i’s and cross the t’s when it comes to the Dog Thinkers and Tasmanian Tigers. I have a few people I know pretty well, but they are notoriously NOT THE BEST at a) disagreeing with me (as they see me as their boss) and b) expressing what they want or need (because Dogs don’t feel they have the right to need anything.)

Now, what I NEED you to do, is to tell me if there’s something in any of the Rules that you feel is incorrect, that is NOT how a person who fits that type best actually thinks like. I absolutely don’t mind feedback – I’m doing this for humanity and the happiness of my future lifetime, not for my ego. ;D

I’ll have questions for you. I’ll try to phrase them so that a Doggo will understand them. ;p We just need to figure out what everyone wants and needs!

Don’t take advice from an incompatible coach.

We all have an in-built moral code. Our needs are different. I’ve identified 3 of them.

When a person who is type A tries to coach type B, they may not even agree on the goal. They both may agree out loud that “we want to make you happy.” But what makes A happy is very different to what makes person B happy. Therefore, the whole practice becomes futile, even harmful. Where one tries to liberate, another feels oppressed. “Do you really think I HAVE TO have a normal life and a family? Really? Can’t I have a bit more?” Or “Do you really think I have to try and live this big romantic life… Can’t I just build a home with someone and have two or three kids, please?”

Likewise, if you ask a generally speaking unattractive woman for advice with a knock-out, thinking she can tell you what women really want, you’ll get a completely irrelevant answer for the knockout. The reason why a knockout looks the way she does is not something that an unattractive (and not even trying) woman could readily understand… Etc.

Teacher one day, student the next.

No matter how good you are at coaching, sometimes you just want to ask people how they feel about things. And it would be best if you knew who to ask or how they are different from the other person who’d give you an opposite answer.

The fun part is this: If you ask a person who is YOUR OPPOSITE TYPE to describe a narcissist… They’ll be describing you. Personality disorders are very much a matter of perspective as far as my exploration has revealed to me.

Your input is valid and important even if it’s just a few opinions thrown in, as opposed to deciding to do a whole YouTube Channel on it. You’ll answer as yourself only, YOUR opinion, nothing more. All you have to do is to add yourself to the right group and talk to the people you find.

Still. Join in.

Also, have your cake and eat it, too.

While I don’t mean this blog as a straight up dating site, it’s also not not a dating site. I recommend you pick your favorite (obvious-to-you) relationship rules and date within that category.

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