I think us girls need his mind in it so we can cum.

Here’s the problem: He tries to not think about it too hard so he doesn’t cum too soon. She thinks he needs to “keep going” so she can “focus”. So he needs to take his mind off it so he can keep going. I think she needs to connect with his mind so she can cum instead of connecting to a fictional guy’s mind, or someone who isn’t in the room with her.

I don’t think men have been educated correctly about this. To women, sex is mental, right? We all kinda say that. Our brain needs to be fucked much more than anything else. Him trying to keep his mind off it is the exact thing that makes it difficult for us to cum, I think.

That said… Maybe a combination of these two skills would be good. He could keep his mind off it for as long as he wants to keep it off, then he decides when it’s time for her to race him over the finish line. Me thinks.

Me dreams.

Sometimes, I call on his spirit to join us. Usually makes things a whole lot better. And faster. 😀

It’s not as much about the position or technique…

Sex, for women, is mental. Probably for men, too, actually. It just seems that for men, they either feel the mental connection more strongly, or it is not as important to them as it is for women, either or.

Mind you, there’s a lot of noise in our heads when we have sex. All the do’s and don’ts, and men and women, this and that. Second-guessing: is this alright, is that too much, are they having fun… All that gets in the way, and it’s typically in her mind.

When he’s trying hard not to cum too soon, he leaves her alone with her stupid brain. This is why mind control needs to happen. 😉 (It’s not as hard as you’d think. Let me explain.)

You know when you try to AVOID having your mind read? You kind of pull back from that person? Do the exact opposite. Think into their brain. “How I want you to feel.” No need to talk, no need to even express that you’re trying it out; just see if you can make a difference by simply sifting your thoughts in and out of her. Stop her thinking by thinking at her.

Girls can do that too. Test different fantasies, which one he responds to. Surprisingly, one guy’s favorite fantasy was us being married. I said nothing. Every time I tried it, he just reacted to it. Deeper, slower, more passionate. He was already married. (Open, due to her infidelity.)

Uncomfortable positions… <3

There are sex positions that are uncomfortable- surprise, surprise. Some just don’t work as well as others. But. Here’s the thing. Girls like man-handling. If he’s confident that HIS PLEASURE demands this, despite her discomfort, it’s all good. Again, no words, just a confident “this is going to happen because my pleasure demands it.”

You could ask a girl if she likes giving men pleasure or if it’s about her pleasure to her. The thing is, some women love to give men pleasure, and some men love giving women pleasure. They don’t always fit together. If both are pleasers, neither gets pleased, ironically.