Full Dog Rules

It’s a big barking love fest over here. They fight rough, but they truly know no hate. Lovers of everyone, hugs and muddy kisses are kinda the thing here. They maybe rough, rude, crude, and full of fleas, but never doubt their love.

  • Undefined: Personality, values, wants, and needs adaptable and depending on social constructs. (Conformist.)
  • Main method of choosing friends: You’re here (living locally/near by).
  • We love organizing things, events, get-togethers, meetups, community gatherings, groups, masses, fun!! – planning for events and logistics is our joy and our thing.
  • Main pain to be solved here: “Nobody loves me.”
  • “I have a dream for us. I assume your dream matches mine and we can work on it together.”
  • What to stop: Spending energy on trying to change Cat Thinkers.
  • Form of narcissism: “I need you to love me, and you’re not permitted to leave me even if you don’t.”
  • Equality: The fool is equal to the king here (you just happen to be the king).
  • No one-upping. Personal talent is irrelevant in hierarchy.
  • Definition of adulthood: You’ll stop wanting to do “childish” things like sex, drugs, and alcohol.
  • Thinking for yourself means that you are capable of making the decisions you were taught as a child without constant supervision.
  • Nobody is better than the other, regardless of behavior or personal gifts.
  • The more you love someone, the less sex you want and need. (Sex is for new relationships (optionally) and reproduction.)
  • Spirituality unnerve us. (Religion is good for setting up boundaries and expectations, but there are better ways.)
  • We’re only slightly wary of strangers (and people from other races and cultures) but we’d LOOOOVE it if you’d make it clear you want to be one of us (even if we bark and carry on to protect the territory). And then, we’ll be so proud of you and ourselves for overcoming that boundary.
  • No giving up on another Dog no matter how hard it gets or how badly they’re doing.
  • Commitment happens first, love follows commitment.
  • Commitment is “until you (really) no longer need me. (I don’t care what you say.)” (People who don’t need you are just too boring.)
  • Love can be one-sided and still valuable.
  • Love is providing physical care when possible and not leaving, love=loyalty.
  • For most of us, knowledge of the world is enough to cover the neighboring towns. (Only if it has an effect on us.)
  • Friendship: Everybody’s pulling one sled, we’re all each other’s friends. You don’t own me. We’re owned by our friendship.
  • Everyone needs someone to take care of them.
  • Forgive what? You can’t do such wrong we can’t forgive before you’re done doing it.
  • We LOOOVE doing things together, even if some of us had NO IDEA what we’re doing.
  • You need to inform everyone what we’re doing tho. Keep everybody in the loop. Be informative. Always remember practicalities.
  • Incompetence is forgivable, we’ll try again. <3
  • Hospitability is a virtue. Set the tables & let’s eat! <3 (You can’t have friends without serving food, really.)
  • Disabilities do not bother us. At all. Not at all. None of them. The fool is equal to the King here.
  • Your love relationships must be accepted by your platonic friends and family.
  • We love arranged friendships and marriages – the elder know better.
  • Safety and permanence are important.
  • Every relationship is worth salvaging and compromising over.
  • If someone doesn’t love you, they’re bad at relationships, not you.
  • Friends matter more than romance.
  • Practicalities matter more than romance.
  • If someone joins us, we treat them as one of us as soon as they’ve expressed their wish to be one of us.
  • People change for relationships. That is expected.
  • You do not enter a relationship with a fixed identity. Stay flexible – you’ll adapt.
  • Conflict means you fear being pushed out, and it’s solved by making sure they know they are a permanent member of our group.
  • People’s differences are inconsequential. We just all want to be together.
  • We don’t base relationships on sex. (Sex is for reproduction mainly, otherwise, we hardly see the point. It’s exhausting to think of it as something that makes or breaks the relationship, so let’s just not.)
  • Community is more important than individuality.
  • Perfectionism is a sign of poor self-esteem. We’ll love you even if you’re not perfect, we promise.
  • Abandonment is condemned. Abandoning someone is the only real sin. (You’ll be forgiven when you come back but not trusted. You need to have changed into someone loyal.)
  • Competition is unnecessary. Collaboration is better. Tasks are shared by capacity and personal skills… And sometimes to teach each other a new skill.
  • When tasks are assigned, you should never give a too difficult a job to someone who will struggle – even slightly – to learn or to perform it. (We like our lessons in small steps.)
  • You do not need to be impressive to belong.
  • You are valuable because you show up and commit.
  • Drama, arguments, and discord are expected but CANNOT break the community.
  • Education, steady work, and normal life paths are trusted.
  • We build stable lives. That is the goal.
  • Bigger is not always better.

If you choose this group, you accept:
You will be coached into fitting.
You will coach others into fitting.
Stability over uniqueness.

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