- Undefined: Personality, values, wants, and needs adaptable and depending on social constructs. (Conformist.)
- Main pain: “Nobody loves me.”
- Equality: The fool is equal to the king here.
- No one-upping. Personal talent is irrelevant in hierarchy.
- Nobody is better than the other, regardless of behavior or personal gifts.
- We’re only slightly wary of strangers (and people from other races and cultures) but we’d LOOOOVE it if you’d make it clear you want to be one of us. And then, we’ll be so proud of you and ourselves for overcoming that boundary.
- No giving up on another Dog Thinker no matter how hard it gets or how badly they’re doing.
- Commitment happens first, love follows commitment.
- Commitment is “until you no longer need me.”
- Love can be one-sided and still valuable.
- Love is providing physical care.
- Trust must be blind.
- For most of us, knowledge of the world is enough to cover the neighboring towns. (Only if it has an effect on us.)
- Sex is best had for reproductive reasons only.
- Friendship: Everybody’s pulling one sled, we’re all each other’s friends. You don’t own me.
- Everyone needs someone to take care of them.
- Forgive what? You can’t do such wrong we can’t forgive before you’re done doing it.
- We LOOOVE doing things together, even if some of us had NO IDEA what we’re doing.
- Incompetence is forgivable, we’ll try again. <3
- Disabilities do not bother us. At all. Not at all. None of them. The fool is equal to the King here.
- Your love relationships must be accepted by your platonic friends and family.
- Safety and permanence are important.
- Every relationship is worth salvaging and compromising over.
- If someone doesn’t love you, they’re bad at relationships.
- Friends often matter more than romance.
- If someone joins us, we treat them as one of us immediately.
- People change for relationships. That is expected.
- You do not enter a relationship with a fixed identity. You adapt.
- Conflict is something to stop, even by force if necessary.
- People’s differences are external. Inside, we are all the same.
- We don’t base relationships on sex. (Sex maybe necessary but you know. An annoyance, really. Definitely a “sometimes food only.”)
- Community is more important than individuality.
- Commitment is demanded and enforced.
- Forgiveness is valued.
- Perfectionism is a sign of poor self-esteem.
- Abandonment is condemned.
- Competition is unnecessary. Collaboration is better.
- You do not need to be impressive to belong.
- You are valuable because you show up and commit.
- Drama, arguments, and discord are tolerable if commitment remains.
- Education, steady work, and normal life paths are trusted.
- We build stable lives. That is the goal.
If you choose this group, you accept:
You will be coached into fitting.
You will coach others into fitting.
Stability over uniqueness. |
- Competitively conformist: Tempted to change into something entirely different from what they believe they are. (“I’m going to out-conform the lot of you.”)
- Main pain: “I’m not perfect.”
- Equality: We’re all faking it to an extent.
- Individuals in a group of friends can have different rights. (Some have the right to punish and hurt, while others don’t.)
- Winner chooses the person who will commit to them.
- Commitment is “until you no longer admire me.”
- Love is a battle you don’t walk away from.
- Trust? There’s no such thing.
- Life is competition.
- Sex is a competition and a means to an end.
- Friendship: “I see your flaws and I’m willing to help you hide them.”
- It’s a bit difficult to hide the fact you’re from another race… Maybe you do you? (We don’t judge you for sticking to your own kind, promise. We might mix “neighboring races” Japanese and Chinese, Aussies and New Zealanders, sure… But you know. Limits.)
- All is fair in love and war. Love is war. All is fair.
- Being addicted to forgiveness makes life fun.
- Friends will show their true colors to each other – nobody else.
- Relationships are about collaborating in a fierce game for wins.
- Status, power, and wealth matter.
- By instinct we hide incompetence until we learn our job by doing it.
- It is POLITE to ignore other people’s failures in performance, and fortify the image so the person has time and space to grow.
- Support other people’s incompetence in private.
- Never embarrass another person.
- Relationships are tested from day one.
- Impostor syndrome is real, but hey, we get it!
- Team up and train in secret. Failures should not be public.
- Commitment is total once given.
- If someone doesn’t love you they must be stupid.
- Conflict is part of intimacy.
- Possessiveness is love.
- Abandonment is unforgivable.
- Secrets are power.
- Lying is a tool.
- Winning matters.
- Influence matters.
- Appearance matters.
- We are HIGHLY uncomfortable with any disabilities. So, so uncomfortable. But if we can, we’ll do our best to help you hide them. Absolutely.
- You must, possibly, pass tests to stay.
- Trust is earned through pressure.
- Relationships are a battle over the right to rule the rooster.
- Makeup sex is a relationship essential.
- If you leave, you lose.
- We do not show vulnerability publicly.
If you choose this group, you accept:
You will be tested.
You will test others.
You are entering a dangerous and competitive environment.
If you leave, you lose. |
- Predefined: Personality, values, wants, and needs inborn. (Rebellious, non-conformist. Even rebelliously normal – individualistic.)
- Main pain: “I don’t have enough…” (Sex, romance, freedom, money maybe, friends, knowledge, wisdom…)
- Equality: It doesn’t matter where you were born or in what race, you’ll be judged by the same measure. If you’re good, you’re good. If you’re a cunt you’re a cunt.
- Everyone in a group of friends has equal rights. (Nobody has the right to hurt others simply because.)
- Friendly competition, no jealousy or envy over success or wealth. (Control your demons.)
- Love happens first, commitment follows.
- Love is joy of another person’s way of being them.
- Commitment is “until you no longer love (feel joy over) me.”
- Trust must be earned.
- The only group that doesn’t know forgiveness once a line has been crossed. They are capable of co-existing peacefully, while not forgiving you.
- Admitting to failure is a sign of maturity and trustworthiness.
- We find it difficult to trust over-night sensations, we like seeing growth in public.
- Changing your mind is OK (even for a politician). If you don’t know when you’ve been wrong, how do you know you’re right?
- Life is to be enjoyed… (Join me, but don’t get in my way.)
- Life is complicated, exceptions normal. The unknown is the unknown. We’re fine with not knowing everything (but we try).
- Sex… And love… are a reason to keep breathing.
- Friendship: I can see no flaws in you. I want you to admire me, too, for YOUR sake, not mine.
- Society adapts to individuals, not the other way around.
- We don’t care which race you belong to, as long as you are as intelligent as an individual as we are, and otherwise you know, compatible.
- Team work, to us, means that everyone knows their station in a team, and a non-expert trusts the expert.
- Experts must INFORM others if they have been promoted beyond their capacities.
- Incompetence is a MAJOR annoyance.
- Adults are responsible for themselves and their own mistakes.
- Consent is the King, unless you consent to no consent.
- Rules should be strict and clear apart from the exceptions (only natural Cat Thinkers have any idea how to follow).
- We believe in love at first sight (of the authentic person) & (One) True Love(s).
- You must be a romantic. (No exceptions.)
- You can’t own people. Duh.
- You can give yourself to a person, sure. (And take yourself away.)
- If someone doesn’t love you it’s your fault, not theirs.
- If love (and desire) is not mutual, it ends.
- Identity is individual, not group-bound.
- You look for people who fit your quirks, not try to make available people forcefully fit your quirks.
- Conversations & communication are both sexy and romantic.
- Arguing is done with facts, experience, and logic, for the best way to do things, not to establish hierarchy, but the best way forward.
- Do not create unnecessary drama.
- Your fundamental right is to live the way you want.
- Your standards are allowed to be high; perfectionism is OK.
- Physical disabilities can be made irrelevant, even exciting and admirable by intelligence, unbreakable spirit, and a sense of humor. Nothing fixes dumb or lazy tho.
- Rejection is normal and acceptable.
- Sexuality is central and important.
- You seek deep compatibility, not tolerance.
- Self-knowledge matters.
- Self-expression is your right.
- You are free to be alone rather than poorly matched, but can form relationships with people who respect your right to move on when you want to.
- True Lovers are allowed to break all generic rules (with each other).
- We’re looking for the very few people we feel the same way as Dog Thinkers and Tasmanian Tigers feel about nearly everybody.
If you choose this group, you accept:
You may walk away.
Others may walk away from you.
Compatibility is more important than stability.
Freedom over security. |
