[SEBASTYNE]'s Social Club

There’s a fundamental problem in creating relationships when it comes to particularly desirable people… Regardless of what makes them desirable. Luxury partners are not practical. They’re not the working bees, normally. They are the “ENTERTAINERS,” the people who make a life a little better by being in it, minus financial benefit and survival or life management functions. Desirable people don’t need to be an asset; they are simply people whom others love to be around for whatever reason.

When people like this try to make platonic friends, they are often short-lived. Things get awkward quickly. People fall one-sidedly in love with them, even platonic friends turn possessive and jealous, and can even start talking B.S. behind their supposed friend’s backs in order to turn others off them and keep that friend to themselves.

When desirable people want to be simply friendly with other people, just to be NICE, their niceness is often optimistically misinterpreted as sexual or romantic interest. This makes their relationships ALWAYS complicated, no matter how low-key they want to keep things. Whether they cause jealousy and mistrust by simply existing, their relationships tend to be stressful, so often, they opt to just focus on a fair few individuals and (looking for) their significant other.

[SEBASTYNE]’s Social Club is open for all… But.

To take part in [SEBASTYNE]’s Social Club’s events and functions online and offline, you need to understand that no matter how hot you think you are, you just might not be hot enough for every member. You have to be respectful and understanding of what everyone is wishing to find, and take a step back a bit. Do not rush commitment or securing a catch for yourself, but have respect for everyone’s process. To do that, we’ll have to get to know each other! Be friends first.

This club isn’t a singles club – this is a matchmaking club. We’re getting to know each other with keen interest, to make friends so we can introduce them to our other friends. This is new behavior for most of us, but we’ll have to learn! Ask a ton of questions, not only if you are interested, but also in case you know someone or might get to know someone who might be! The one thing we all have in common is that we respect each other’s right to hunt unicorns, so to speak, and reject a unicorn because you’re unhappy with its color. 😀 (No matter how small your reasons, they’re important to you for whatever reason, and that’s all there is to it.)

We also very much understand you while you’re waiting for your True Emotion Mirror(s) or Twin Flame.

This club is for all romantics aged 18 or older.

You’ll have to agree…

We believe

Relationships are not an obligation but a joy; they’re not a NEED but a WANT. Therefore, we can be CHOOSY and TAKE OUR TIME.
True love is real, and if it isn’t, then we’ll rather just fuck around (from now on).
Commitment doesn’t bring happiness if you’re tied to someone very deserving but not exciting.
It is OK to reject another person’s love and devotion, even if they have no clue why they’re not the one true love of your life (or even one to fit your rat pack of polyamorous randos).
Cheating on a partner means an automatic ending of an authentic love relationship if you get caught (unless you’ve mutually agreed beforehand to play with such things, and it’s a thing for you).
We also know that making rules without a dozen exceptions is nearly impossible and will sound wishy-washy to some people, but it isn’t.

This is not a closed club, but you will be removed if

Your ego gets in the way (you can’t take rejection too well, but insist people keep lying to you and proving you’re desirable even when they’re not truly interested in you).
You come in preaching why we should change our priorities (so you could be enough).
You come in telling us we have to lower our romantic standards (for any reason).
You come in shaming people for having spiritual experiences or faith.
You act overly aggressively without a detectable sense of humor.
You act overly jealous or controlling over another person who doesn’t like it. (I’ll ask them.)
You act like you are DESERVING and OWED a relationship somehow. Nope. It’s not about “deserve”, it’s about… Some kind of a kink, really. Some individually definable twist and a dynamic that just works. Deserve is for relationship beginners. (We can argue about it until we get sick of you and you get kicked out.)
I (Sebastyne) deem you to be in such a wrong place that listening to us will actually harm you, and you shouldn’t be here for your own protection. (Someone easily peer-pressured, naive, and incapable of holding an opinion of their own. Will oddly sometimes seem like the opposite; as Cat Thinkers are crazy unanimous in many ways, but if someone seems to have a real opinion that is clearly not Cat Thinking, but seems eager to change… They shouldn’t be here.)
You sit there cooing at your lover, making us all gag and feel utterly diabetic at the same time. (Kidding. You’re fine, we’ll be terribly jealous, we’ll hate you both (all), but you can stay.)
Finally, this is Sebastyne’s private club. If she doesn’t like you for whatever reason, she can remove you anyway. (Make sure you grab alternate contact info for people you meet here straight away, so you don’t lose any in case you wind up catching the ire of her whims. Second Life friending recommended, for anonymity reasons.)

You DO NOT have to…

Show “attendance”. You can certainly use the club as a “badge” of a way of thinking and take part when or if you feel like it.
Prove yourself to be “desirable,” but rather prove that you can, in fact, take rejection gracefully and respect people’s choices.
Have an iron-glad self-confidence.
Be certain you’ll like the club before joining.
Respect other people’s marriages or commitments. It’s their job to do that, not yours.
You don’t have to show special “respect for women”, just show respect for people. Feel free to judge women by the same moral measure as you’d judge men. A real feminist would agree.
- Women should show men the same respect as they show other women, too, btw.
Be a nice person all the time, in fact, you must be worth your s*** to the right people, so being a bit rubbish at times is kind of a must thing to do.

I can kick you out… So.

Here’s the thing. I’m here to meet new people, just like everyone else. However, I have my True Emotion Mirrors, and I’m somewhat spoken for. This being my private club, I can kick you out if I don’t like you. Therefore, testing my patience is not the smartest thing to do if you want to stay in the club. I’d truly reserve getting on my nerves ONLY if you think you have a REAL thing for me, and you don’t really care if you lose contact with everyone else in the club at the price of getting to test that out. As in… Try and crack onto me or everyone else… Not both. You’ll probably get to know me anyway over time, and you can then change your mind if you want to.

Who, what, why, where?

This club is for anyone who feels the pain described. It is run by Sebastyne. We come together to enjoy the search, chill on Second Life, possibly enjoy casual encounters with new friends with benefits, and discuss philosophy with like-minded chill-heads.

Sounds good?

Join here.